I read another post this morning from someone I follow on Facebook. The gist was SHUT UP AND LISTEN.


Whether you read them or hear them, interpretation is key. I remember one time I was working on something for work and I’d been using ALL CAPS. I forgot to turn it off when I replied to something else, and the receiver replied back – WHY ARE YOU YELLING AT ME? I called and laughed, said that I was sorry, I wasn’t yelling, and explained what I just said above. Her response: “I’m very sensitive to that!”

Really? We are too sensitive to too many things these days. I respect your beliefs, and your freedoms, but STOP AND LISTEN. HEAR WHAT “I’M”┬áSAYING BEFORE YOU GET ALL “CRAY CRAY” – I don’t mean that just to my self – I mean it to everything that’s going on around us…

Look, here’s the thing… I’m too fat to walk on egg shells…

Sometimes someone writes a negative review or a comment on one of my books and my gut reaction is to reply to them – but I’ve learned to take it as FEEDBACK – NOT FAILURE. I tell myself that not everyone likes the same things – that some people want “more” and I’m not that person. I tell myself that I will be true to my heart in my writing. I do it for me. If you like it – that a BONUS!

(this isn’t about a certain review – it’s just a point)

But I digress…

I “hear” things sometimes too, and wonder if I’m being too sensitive – and then I remember who I am. I am a hard worker. I am a good person. I have a big’ol┬áheart. I have strong ethics and values. I am a writer. I am a wife. I am a friend. I am strong-willed. I am independent. I am a woman. I am weak. I am tired.

I am all these things… But I am also someone who makes mistakes. When I do, I try to make them right. When someone else makes mistakes, I try to give them the opportunity to do the same – make things right. When they don’t, it makes me stumble and fall. Sometimes getting back up is a no-brainer, but sometimes the tumble is harder to recover from.

I will work harder on “me” to hear “you” before I react. I will work harder to understand what I think I heard before I reply. I will work harder to keep my heart off my sleeve and my emotions intact.

(My “I ams” and my “I wills” are part of daily affirmations that I’ve been trying to think about.)


All that said, what WORDS came to your mind as you read this? I’m curious to HEAR your thoughts.

If you’re reading this, I <3 you, B

About barbarastewart

I'm Barbara and I read. I'm Barbara and I write! :) I'm still learning and I believe each word I read, and each that I write show that I am learning my craft.

2 thoughts on “Words…

  1. thebrinkof2014 says:

    Damned good piece. I’ve had to regard reviews with a similar attitude. The very few really bad ones are coming from disgruntled readers, I’ve concluded, because the majority are pretty positive. What most rankles me is when a reviewer says something negative that is factually wrong. But I’ve resisted the urge to respond even then.

  2. Susan Bevins says:

    Barb I agree with you. Sometimes I say things before I think. I do not mean to hurt anyone. I like you have a big heart and hope people understand we are human.

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