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Sometimes it’s about looking back and remembering. Sometimes it’s about looking forward, thinking about, and planning the future. And sometimes…well, it’s just about laughing at both of those things.


Today I am laughing over sad times because I’m finally finding the humor and love that surrounded each moment that brought me to the place I am right now. Nothing that happened in our lives can be changed – it happened. Dr. Suess said: “Don’t cry because it’s over. Smile because it happened.” The thing is, even the thing that is “over” brought be a gift that I wouldn’t have if it hadn’t happened.


I read another post this morning from someone I follow on Facebook. The gist was SHUT UP AND LISTEN.


Whether you read them or hear them, interpretation is key. I remember one time I was working on something for work and I’d been using ALL CAPS. I forgot to turn it off when I replied to something else, and the receiver replied back – WHY ARE YOU YELLING AT ME? I called and laughed, said that I was sorry, I wasn’t yelling, and explained what I just said above. Her response: “I’m very sensitive to that!”

Really? We are too sensitive to too many things these days. I respect your beliefs, and your freedoms, but STOP AND LISTEN. HEAR WHAT “I’M” SAYING BEFORE YOU GET ALL “CRAY CRAY” – I don’t mean that just to my self – I mean it to everything that’s going on around us…

Look, here’s the thing… I’m too fat to walk on egg shells…

Sometimes someone writes a negative review or a comment on one of my books and my gut reaction is to reply to them – but I’ve learned to take it as FEEDBACK – NOT FAILURE. I tell myself that not everyone likes the same things – that some people want “more” and I’m not that person. I tell myself that I will be true to my heart in my writing. I do it for me. If you like it – that a BONUS!

(this isn’t about a certain review – it’s just a point)

But I digress…

I “hear” things sometimes too, and wonder if I’m being too sensitive – and then I remember who I am. I am a hard worker. I am a good person. I have a big’ol heart. I have strong ethics and values. I am a writer. I am a wife. I am a friend. I am strong-willed. I am independent. I am a woman. I am weak. I am tired.

I am all these things… But I am also someone who makes mistakes. When I do, I try to make them right. When someone else makes mistakes, I try to give them the opportunity to do the same – make things right. When they don’t, it makes me stumble and fall. Sometimes getting back up is a no-brainer, but sometimes the tumble is harder to recover from.

I will work harder on “me” to hear “you” before I react. I will work harder to understand what I think I heard before I reply. I will work harder to keep my heart off my sleeve and my emotions intact.

(My “I ams” and my “I wills” are part of daily affirmations that I’ve been trying to think about.)


All that said, what WORDS came to your mind as you read this? I’m curious to HEAR your thoughts.

If you’re reading this, I <3 you, B

New friends

The other day, I posted about “An old friend” – today it’s about NEW FRIENDS.

I posted on Facebook last night that I participated in my first book club – that’s not true, but I want to explain. In the past, a group of my local girl friends did an “Evening with the Author” but I don’t think I really thought of it as a book club. I thought of it as time with people I loved.

My brother, Charlie introduced my books to someone he worked with and she, Cindy contacted me to talk about The Face in the Mirror with a group of her friends. I didn’t even know Cindy, but I left our Facetime encounter with NEW FRIENDS. I enjoyed talking to these ladies who knew nothing about me about a piece of my heart – and then I let them in on some of the things I’m working on. I LOVED IT! We talked and laughed and talked some more.

All because of a little story in my head.

I hope that I get the opportunity to do it again.

If you’re reading this, I <3 you! B